Troublemakers

Hi @Everyone, I was just having a yarn with a friend of Deb's and the thought arrived that authentic listening with trusted friends is absolutely critical for emancipation from our embedded mistaken narratives. This is because those narratives are non-consciously embedded in our bodies. So that even when someone says something like, "that's a mistake what you're doing", that behaviour is dysfunctional etc, we can't hear it because we are compelled, that is, physically possessed by the primary habitus. So we don't believe in what we're being told, and/or we dismiss it out of hand, without regard, without really entertaining the thought. And then this whole other subsidiary defensive narrative kicks in. In the blink of an eye. Without listening. Authentic listening teaches us to slow this whole dismissing down. The other thing is that it points to the nature of resilience as fundamentally relational, not psychological. We need trusted friends/family who don't share the same self-destructive narratives to break through our non-conscious or partly conscious narratives to offer different narratives and different positions and different possible actions. This is so exciting especially when we think about Heidegger and that Japanese philosopher and also Assagioli's writing on the will (we can talk about this later but basically he points out that doing an action reinforces the thought and vice versa. Soo interesting.... Thoughts?